Sunday, May 12, 2019

A woman's purpose

A while ago, I undertook a deep dive into masculine purpose, and wrote this. In creating that document, I benefited from three books that were useful at least in part in accelerating my thinking on the issue. 

For some reason (probably because our modern sensibilities make meaningful discussion on the topic taboo), there are no such books I could find on the female side. I don't know why no one has bothered doing so before, but here is a draft version of a document for female purpose.

I have a higher purpose in life, one that transcends the daily. My mission in life is to beautify (improve the appearance of), to enliven (make more entertaining, interesting, appealing), to enhance (improve, make more valuable), to excite (cause feelings of enthusiasm and eagerness), to enrich (improve or enhance the value of), to uplift (improve the spiritual, social, or intellectual condition of), to gladden (make glad), to mollify (calm and soothe), and to pacify (bring peace to). The greatest recipients of my gifts will my husband and children, in that order, and within the home. The success and reach of my mission will be rate-limited by the resources (principally time and money) at my disposal, and therefore choosing and sustaining a productive husband is the most important action.

I am a queen. My being a queen depends upon my husband. The king does not need an equivalent partner, he needs a complimentary partner. The king distills, the queen dispenses. The king plants the seed, the queen grows the seed. The king provides the thread, the queen weaves the tapestry. The king creates a protective space, the queen creates and fills the space. I receive his power and love by appropriately appreciating who he is and what he provides, seeking his wisdom, and learning what he teaches me through his explicit teaching and implicit example. I love my husband by opening myself completely to him (communicating the fullness of my heart, my hopes, my worries, my joys, etc. in complete and unrestrained honesty and trust), becoming one with him through treating him as an extension of myself, and adopting our joint decisions, desires, and perspectives as my own.

I am a mother. I do what I do because I choose to benefit others without regard to what I receive in return. I am able to focus my attention away from self-gratification and onto others. I create, sustain, and enrich life. I manage the predictable aspects of the family, such as the daily and weekly home responsibilities. I take primary responsibility for the nurture and education of my children. I channel and direct the chaos of children into safe, productive, and beneficial directions within the bounds of the world my husband has created and with the resources my husband provides. I do what I can to advance these things in the children of others.

I am a magician, seeing potential in people and things and making it a reality through my actions. I see the potential in my husband, my children, and others, patiently providing the time and attention necessary to nurture their potential into realization. I see through illusions to how things really are, and I can foresee how they can actually be. This includes myself: I accurately and honestly know myself. I correctly gauge the content and abundance of my worth and my faults. I seek and rejoice in learning and correction. I spend appropriate time and effort in watching what I eat, exercising, sleeping, dressing, and grooming. As I age, I will take ownership of the responsibility of passing my wisdom to younger women.

I am a lover. I am affectionate with my husband and children. I am emotionally, physically, and ideologically intimate with my husband. I create fun experiences and make daily life more enjoyable by magnifying experiences and conversations through my presence.
I also just recorded a video on what it means to be a Proverbs 31 woman. You can find it here.

Some have commented that I tend to be harsh on women.

The truth is reality is harsh. It is equally harsh to men and women, in different ways. Anyone who is serious about honoring their commitment to witness of Christ at all times and in all places must adopt his purpose, one dimension of which is preparing people to deal with reality to a greater degree than their current awareness allows.

While today's society does little to cushion the harshness of reality for men, it goes through great lengths to cushion it for women. Modern women have many sources of illusion to paint over reality with, and almost all of them do.

The last days judgments do one thing, primarily: they expose the world to a greater measure of reality than we were previously exposed to. The effect of this exposure is very different for men and women. You can read about this all over the scriptures, particularly in Isaiah. What happens when men are exposed to the reality of human nature? For the most part, they die. They are killed and enslaved by captors, disease, and famine. What happens to women? They will have a much worse time, because their modern delusions are much more extensive.

Anyone who believes in truth must adopt the cause of helping people prepare for what is coming. You can't help people by lying to them.