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How to be a terrible cult leader

From time to time, people will accuse me of trying to start a cult. If that were my aim, I am going about it the worst possible way.

- Don’t believe anything I say. Only believe what you have your own reasons to believe. Only believe what you are persuaded of so thoroughly that if it proved to be utterly false, only you would be at fault.

- Don’t value anything I say or do that you do not believe 

- I only ever share what I see, believe, value, and do myself.

- I am the least charismatic person in history. I dependably tell you the thing you would least like to hear.

- I do not hide anything. I am not giving one message in public and one message in private. Whenever there is anything I know that I do not say, it is only because I have not yet said everything else that I’m supposed to say before that, or because I’m still working on better words to express it. 

- I don’t have a secret inner circle. There are a few people who deserve a medal for how diligently they have repeatedly reached out to me. I have blocked several of them, and the others continue subject to me regularly opting out of talking as frequently or as long or about the things they want me to.

- For the most part, I do not want to speak with people. I do not have many contacts that I speak with on the phone or through texting. I do much more to prevent, restrict, or discontinue communication with others than I do to foster it. Anyone who knows me well will attest to this fact.

- For the most part, I do not want to visit with people. I am incredibly selective about this, following God’s instructions to me about it for very important reasons. I routinely reject invitations to speak in public or meet people face-to-face.

- It is obvious that I do not do this for money. I have worked up to full time in ministry for more than a decade in addition to one or two full time jobs and freely given you everything I have produced. This ministry cost me a lucrative career that I worked very hard to obtain and at a time when the time inputs were about to drop drastically for life.

- It is obvious I don’t do this because it is easy. You can’t see the price of what I have given, because most of it lies beyond your ability to see or understand yet. The parts you do know about are very small compared to the full price.

- It is obvious that I do not do this for attention. Almost all of the attention I receive is negative. Besides, I am outspoken about the fact that I have a very low opinion of anyone else’s opinion. I also actively discourage any praise for what I do. It means nothing to me, and makes me feel uncomfortable besides, because I know full well that 100% of anything good I give is from God, not me. If what I’m doing doesn’t draw your attention to God, I’d prefer you go find something that does.

- It is obvious that I am not building up dependency on myself. My message is limited to what I have not yet found elsewhere here. Whenever I can, I forward you to other people and materials rather than say the same thing again. I obviously believe there is tremendous value in what I am sharing. However, that very value is that it strengthens your relationship with God. The more you learn from me, the less you will need me. I have publicly taught repeatedly about the need for people to develop an independent relationship with God, and all I do is aimed at making myself completely redundant. 

- It is obvious that I am not doing this to build a harem of wives, or whatever else others accuse me of in this vein. While I have expressed my views that polygynous relationships are not always evil and can be what is morally best in very unusual circumstances, I have made clear that the standards for that are extraordinarily high, and that almost no one meets them. Even if the legality of such things were no obstacle, my personal standards are so ridiculously high that if you knew what they were, you would ridicule me for that instead of my position on polygyny.